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    Sex Therapy

    How We Work With Intimacy Issues

    Sex and intimacy are usually intertwined with how safe and secure you feel in your relationship. As attachment based therapists, we see the attachment fears and longings in the relationship as intricately connected with the level of closeness and intimacy in the relationship. When couples feel emotionally disconnected, their intimacy usually suffers as well.

    As our work is focused on rebuilding connection and emotional safety between partners, disconnection in the bedroom is an important issue that is simultaneously addressed. Often, what we call “The Negative Cycle’ in Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy, impacts intimacy as well. In fact, the couple often has a slightly different negative cycle in the bedroom.

    When couples begin to feel more connected, emotionally safer and bonded, intimacy can improve in tandem. If intimacy is not improving naturally, we look at the emotional cycle that is keeping intimacy stuck or dysregulated. We help couples to have open conversations about how each feels about their sex life in a way that feels safe. We encourage open communication around the issue of intimacy and during intimacy when needed.

    As therapists who have a large caseload of couples, we understand that most issues with intimacy don’t have to do with biological function but with the couples’ level of safety, attachment, and communication. With that in mind, we work to address the underlying emotional disconnection of the couple, always with an eye on how the couple’s improvement is affecting intimacy.



    We welcome you to contact us for more information or schedule a free 15 minute consultation

    What We're Going For

    At Love Frontier Therapy we are all about helping you and your relationship to thrive. We are here to get down to business and get you on the road to reaching your goals and getting more connected with your partner. Feel free to give us a call to set up a free 15 minute consultation at your convenience.

    What Happens in Therapy

    We are here to help, so we won’t be sitting back, nodding endlessly, or wasting your time. We are here to help you make changes in your life and relationships. We will challenge you to feel deeply, examine your assumptions, and reach your goals.


    When you have a 15 minute consult, you can ask questions and see if we are a good fit for you. Therapy is consistent and weekly. We work in a practical, results-oriented manner. We are not here to keep you in therapy forever – our focus is profound while remaining goal-oriented.

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